This post is probably not going to be understood by many people but I wanted to write down these thoughts anyway, for those who have experienced living neither here nor there, and for the sake of our girls, to remember and hopefully understand themselves better later in their lives.
Most of these ideas were taken from a book 'You Know You're An M. K. When . . .' (by Aunt Kathy)
You know you are a third culture kid when . . .
Food:
You know you will get blood on your hands when you get change back from buying chicken.
You now know the meaning of fresh bananas.
You are surprised to learn that not all fast food restaurants have motorcycle delivery service.
The "rare" fruits and vegetables in Canada are everyday foods to you and the "common" things are
what you stare at.
You have developed a taste for local food that would never be approved by the FDA. (Hannah's fave)
You find a bug in your food (or inside the straw in your cup), you calmly pick it out, and finish
eating (Eileen and Kate fave).
You know "stall" food is good.
You know that the menu at McDonalds varies greatly from country to country, including an excellent
slushie (called a Frozen) in Malaysia.
You are not afraid to eat food that you can't pronounce or know what is in it. You just go by the
picture and point.
Your idea of fruits and vegetables is buying them "dry" at the "wet market", and the seller will throw
in an extra apple or banana.
You wonder why eggs have to be refrigerated.
You get upset when people don't finish their food, and feel worse when they scrape it into the trash.
Visiting Canada means stocking up on Kraft Dinner.
Animals:
You don't understand why people have such a problem with a few ants.
You miss seeing stray dogs wander the streets.
People in Canada tell you their horror stories about bugs, rats, and mice and you think "What's so
amazing about that?".
Your natural instinct is to look for cockroaches no matter how "safe" the environment.
Driving:
Someone has to explain to you that red lights mean stop all the time, without exceptions, and you must stay stopped until the light turns green, whether or not there is cross-traffic - and you don't understand why.
Your friends nervously remind you to drive on the right side of the road.
You don't understand why you can't do a u-turn whenever you want.
You don't understand why the pedestrian has the right-of-way instead of the driver.
Your first trip driving through town in Canada was a disaster because you honked your horn continuously (Elizabeth fave).
You're likely to get a ticket because you don't know how to work a seat belt (Kate fave).
Fitting 10 or more people in a car seems normal to you.
You think that some road signs are just there and not really meant to be followed (Garth fave)
You think nothing of straddling white road lines.
You are accused by your friends of being a maniacal driver but that's because everyone from where you're from drives that way.
You get scared when thinking of driving on the right side of the road.
You don't pull over for ambulances with their lights are on.
Your car doesn't have a heat setting.
Clothing:
You go to Canada and realize you don't have any clothes for colder weather.
You bundle up warmly even in the summer.
You have no clue what's in style.
The sole finally comes right off your favorite pair of shoes, so you go looking for the itinerant shoe repair man serving chicken rice, who will fix them better than new (Garth fave).
You know how long it takes for different items of clothing to dry on the clothesline, whether inside or outside the house.
Flip-flops are shoes that can be worn 365 days a year.
Visiting Canada means stocking up on underwear.
You can't find shoes to fit your feet in any of the shoe stores.
You shake your shoes out before putting them on.
Your wardrobe can only handle two seasons: wet and dry.
Bathrooms:
You marvel at the cleanliness of gas station bathrooms.
You are thankful for toilets with seats, and even more if they are clean (Aimee fave).
You are not surprised to see people peeing on the side of the road.
You know how to aim your pee into a hole.
Travel:
You can't remember how many times you have been on an airplane.
You don't think it's strange to see more than two people on a motorcycle.
You're an expert packer.
You speak with authority on the quality of airline travel and food.
Seeing 16 people in the back of a pick-up truck seems normal.
You feel surprisingly at home in an airport.You think VISA is a stamp in your passport and not a plastic card you carry in your wallet.
You've been to places most teenagers only read about in their textbooks. (Hannah's fave)
You have a money jar with 5 kinds of currency in it.
Other:
Only your family knows what you are saying.
You often slip foreign words into your speaking which makes you unintelligible to most people.
You don't know whether to write the day at month/day/year or day/month/year or some other variation.
Your life story uses the phrase, "Then we went to . . . " five times.
You live at school, work in the tropics, and go home for vacation (Garth fave).
Your family sends you Kool-Aid and licorice for Christmas.
You grew up with a maid.
"Where are you from?" has more than one reasonable answer.
You ask if there is hot water in the house.
You never take anything for granted like water from the taps and an Internet connection.
You believe vehemently that football is played with a round, spotted ball (Kate fave).
Rain on a corrugated metal roof - - is one of the most wonderful sounds in the world (Eileen fave).
You feel odd being in the ethnic majority. (Hannah's fave)
You don't know where home is.
You feel like you need to move after you've lived in the same place for two years.
The family gathers around the computer to check email.
The end of the school year is bitter-sweet because so many people move away.
You realize it really is a small world, after all.
You can set your watch by when the sun rises.
You keep odd hours when you are expecting a Skype call, to account for the time zones.
You are used to people staring at you.
You can fit all your important possessions in two boxes and only have one tote bag of extra stuff.
Your natural instinct when it's rainy and muddy out is to take your shoes off and go barefoot.
You don't know the Canadian holidays.
You feel like you have to make sure to get enough of the items at the store because you never know if they will be there the next time you go.
You don't understand why dishes need to be washed in hot water (Aimee fave).
You are really good at calculating time differences.
Sometimes you want to be where you know the rules, don't stand out for your looks, and can fade into anonymity.
You know there is a definite difference between 30 degrees weather in a dry climate and 30 degrees in a humid climate (Elizabeth fave).
You miss the subtitles when you go see a movie.
You can't believe that people actually walk up to the front door of someone's house and knock instead of tapping on bars and calling out (Elizabeth fave).
You stand in lines really close to the person in front of you so that nobody can cut in.
You miss being constantly stared at, and asked if you would pose for pictures.
You miss being followed around in shops by sales clerks eager to write up a receipt for you.
You marvel at how clean and well cared for the sidewalks are in Canada.
When you are in Canada you slow down and look both ways at every intersection . . . even when the light is green.
National Geographic makes you homesick.
Climates that get below 20 degrees C are against your body's religion.
It scares you more to go to public school than it would to take an unescorted plane trip.
Your home looks a little like a museum with all the "exotic" things you have around.
You haggle with the checkout clerk for a lower price.
You are grateful for the speed and efficiency of the Canadian Postal Service.
You have a hard time living with a roommate who isn't a foreigner.
You wake up one day and realize you're not a foreigner anymore. You wake up one day and realize you are still a foreigner (Eileen and Aimee fave).
You tell people where you're from and their eyes get big.